Phone sex may sound outdated in the era of smartphones and sexting, but it can still be a fun and intimate way to connect with your partner. It can be an alternative for long-distance couples who can’t always be intimate in person or for couples trying to explore their sexuality. It can also be an amazing way to masturbate and get your partner involved too, and it can help you become more comfortable around your partner, to help them understand what gets you off, and maybe even achieve a mutual orgasm.
Phone sex involves talking through specific fantasies, mutual masturbation, or something more instructional, where one partner tells the other what to do, particularly if you enjoy experimenting with power dynamics during sex. The wonders of modern technology have expanded phone sex possibilities through FaceTime, Skype, voice notes, or text messages, making phone sex easier than ever.
Before starting, it is important to be clear about what you and your partner want to get out of it and ensure that you’re both comfortable. Some individuals love to just listen, and it can be a bit like a form of voyeurism for them. Understanding the type of phone sex that turns you and your partner on will be the key to success.
Is Phone Sex Right for Me and My Partner?
Phone sex can help you explore fantasies and ideas you might be a little nervous to bring up or try physically in person. It can help teach both partners more about what type of sexual play they enjoy and what they find arousing, including physical actions and ways to touch each other. It can help build positive sexual connections and make it easier to draw on fantasies and erotic memories when engaging in erotic play and sex.
To start phone sex, communicate with your partner about the emotional reasons behind this new experience. Discuss set times and ensure you won’t be interrupted—even warn your flatmates. Then, think about preparation for the phone call, talk about what turns you off, and decide on aftercare for after the phone call.
How to Have Really Good Phone Sex
What constitutes “good” phone sex depends on what you like and what turns you on. Don’t be afraid to prepare for your call and talk dirty over text or voice notes before the call. Talk about what you like before the call and establish no-go areas. Think about aftercare and don’t forget to check up on your partner afterward.
Getting Comfortable with Dirty Talk
Dirty talk can be intimidating and anxiety-inducing, but it doesn’t have to be. Start small and recreate existing dynamics where one partner does most of the talking. Be vocal about what you like or try role play with scenarios that are intimate or specific to a phone call. You can experiment with power dynamics and try something new, such as telling your partner what to do.
Ultimately, if your partner has agreed to phone sex, then they want to hear you talking dirty, so don’t hold back and have confidence in your ability to turn them on. With these tips, phone sex can be a fun and mind-blowing experience.
